To Approach a Controversial Subject

[THOaken]

I don't regret this thread at all. It was largely positive and I was sincere in my replies to everyone. The thread grew large and that was intentional. I wanted to show as many people as I could the new me. But that doesn't mean the thread was a ploy just to express my new voice... My idea was genuine. I think if you look back beyond my old college thread, you'll see that most of my threads were good natured. They were normal. Let's settle this, shall we? I hope everyone will read these post I write in bold and continue reading as I write this:

That infamous thread was filled with the words of a bitter teenager angry at the world. I kept telling myself that I wasn't a teenager because I didn't like the stigma, but clearly I am, or was, filled with angst, however hard that is for me to admit. Those things I said were antisocial and the product of a long life as a bitter recluse and almost misanthropic view of people outside of those I respect, many of whom are on this forum.

Do I sound like the same person in this thread? No, I don't think so.

Please let me have a chance to change myself. I'm 20 in 8 days, yet those words I typed in that thread and the earlier ones portrayed me as a deeply ill minded youngster. This has to be the last remnant of the old me.

 

[Corso]

[video=youtube;rRMIM1ygKpg]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRMIM1ygKpg[/video]

job done next thread please

 

[Two Socks]

@Corso: He does. That is the point of this thread.

 

[Corso]

@Corso: He does. That is the point of this thread.

I guess only us oldies will get the link?

 

[THOaken]

I completely understand the will of some of you to mock my words as pathetic and childish, but know that I too view the words I've written over the last few months the same way. You're free to tell me to go away and leave, but understand that I'm genuinely trying to set things right.

 

[Two Socks]

I guess only us oldies will get the link?

Have to admit that I do not know the show belonging to the opening theme, so I might indeed miss a link here.

 

[Robbi]

I completely understand the will of some of you to mock my words as pathetic and childish, but know that I too view the words I've written over the last few months the same way. You're free to tell me to go away and leave, but understand that I'm genuinely trying to set things right.

well done mate, really well done, your posts in bold must have taken a lot of courage to write. I'm a long way away from you guys but if there is any help or advice i can give via the forum, please just ask.

i applaud your efforts and you deserve every encouragement

Robbi

 

[Corso]

The world isn't a problem to fix mate. It is good bits bad bits and *** bits, the only thing you can influence is how you want to fit into it and to be honest we are all teenagers at heart.

Theres nothing wrong with that either...

 

[Corso]

Have to admit that I do not know the show belonging to the opening theme, so I might indeed miss a link here.

It was an 80's kids show run by kids who would make suggestions about what to do rather than watch TV - obviously this was before the days of PC's and Game consols but the idea is the same

The best way to engage is to use the media the people you want to reach use, I used be involved with an airsoft club, that was always a great way to get the FPS PC fans into a bit of outdoor activity, we used to camp out, hold woodland film screenings -dog soldiers was a classic night and infact this experence its how I ended up geting into bushcraft

 

[shaggystu]

...especially you Shaggystu. You took someone trying to promote advocacy of the benefits of outdoors as "telling people what to do" and did it in a mean way......

No I didn't. When I said he was telling people what to do I referring to the post that I quoted in my own post (#105), the one where he was telling people what to do.

 

[decorum]

Guys (and, possibly, gals ), it's past time to back up and back off. If he, as he says, wants to change then it's not going to happen overnight let alone within a couple of posts / threads. Is it too much, for someone unused to dealing with groups of strangers, to open up and ask for a bit of leeway?


Do we help him or do we keep poking the chap for not being quite like _us_?

>>> ... I'll explain later in another post. <<<

Nooooooooooooooooooooooo! If you're trying to move forward then don't drag stuff up! If someone else drags stuff up you have two choices. You either ignore it or, otherwise, apologise for any misunderstanding, tell them that you're working on it and thank them for their general patience .


And stop posting full responses in bold, it can be seen by some as a form of written shouting .

 

[Two Socks]

It was an 80's kids show run by kids who would make suggestions about what to do rather than watch TV - obviously this was before the days of PC's and Game consols but the idea is the same

The best way to engage is to use the media the people you want to reach use, I used be involved with an airsoft club, that was always a great way to get the FPS PC fans into a bit of outdoor activity, we used to camp out, hold woodland film screenings -dog soldiers was a classic night and infact this experence its how I ended up geting into bushcraft

Definitely missed the link and thought it was a direct response to the post above. Thanks for the explanation and my apologies for the quick judgement

 

[THOaken]

I've said what needed to be said and I've been advised to close this thread. I don't wish for it to be closed because it's turned negative and I want it to dissapear, but it should be closed because it provides closure for me. I've said what needed to be said and I'm happy I did.

Thanks everyone for the support for the idea and for those few posts in bold. I hope others whom I have offended with my antisocial remarks of late will get the chance to read those words.

Mods, if you'd be so kind.

 

[Clouston98]

I think my advice would be take a break have a go at something you wanted to do then come back a post a thread of what you have made and start properly over then .

Good luck .

 

[shaggystu]

....I do however detect a slight passive aggressiveness towards me, but as you can see I've been entirely polite throughout this very long thread and I hope to make things right with you and several others.

I didn't respond to this part of your post when I replied to it originally, mainly because this bit wasn't there at the time, you've edited it in since. I'll address it now instead.

You "detect a slight passive aggressiveness towards" yourself - Oh well, could be a lot worse couldn't it?

"as you can see I've been entirely polite throughout..." - No I can't, you've failed to respond to direct comments, that's impolite, you've repeatedly edited your comments after people have already responded to them, that's impolite, you have made broad sweeping statements about whole sectors of society based upon your own very narrow world view, that's downright offensive.

 

[Stew]

I've said what needed to be said and I've been advised to close this thread. I don't wish for it to be closed because it's turned negative and I want it to dissapear, but it should be closed because it provides closure for me. I've said what needed to be said and I'm happy I did.

Thanks everyone for the support for the idea and for those few posts in bold. I hope others whom I have offended with my antisocial remarks of late will get the chance to read those words.

Mods, if you'd be so kind.

Oh my word, you do go on a bit....

 

[Corso]

Definitely missed the link and thought it was a direct response to the post above. Thanks for the explanation and my apologies for the quick judgement

no apology necessary

 

[mountainm]

Paintballing
Airsofting
Clay pigeon shooting
Field Archery

Any of the above will appeal to gamers. Take your brother and some mates. You'll have a great time, you'll have common ground.

 

[THOaken]

Oh my word, you do go on a bit....

It's all about perspective and mindset. I'm trying to set things right and undo a terrible reputation that could actually burn a lot of bridges for me and I'm trying to handle it in a civilised manner. That's why I seem to be going on a bit to you.

 

[mountainm]

It's all about perspective and mindset. I'm trying to set things right and undo a terrible reputation that could actually burn a lot of bridges for me and I'm trying to handle it in a civilised manner. That's why I seem to be going on a bit to you.

Remember *spock raises an eyebrow* - sometimes the best response is no response at all.